I need advice on how to move on.

[The Lurker Below]

**** that. When I move on, I move on. Also I hope that wasn't your youth.

Don't knock it. If everything in life went perfect according to plan, what a boring life. The woman to whom I've been married nineteen years takes credit for the seven that we dated on and off, while I was playing the field and enjoying the twisting knife in my back a couple of times. On two separate occasions during that period I did not see or speak to her for nearly a year. If it's meant to be it will happen, no matter how much you swear it off. The last thing you'll learn is that there is no room for absolute ultimatums, in the meantime I'll close where I started:

If you love someone set them free,
if they don't come back shoot them.